I was telling a fellow ACA that I don’t understand why I’m so surprised when people do or say something rude or sharp to me. “It’s happened enough times that I should be use to it by now.” I said, “I don’t know why I freeze up and have nothing to say back?”
She mentioned that those moments when we freeze up is our trauma being triggered. I dunno about you, but that makes total sense to me. I began to remember moments when I felt that way and, yup, I can see that my trauma was being revisited.